I have been experiencing a bit of discomfort from my hip since I did a TRE session (Trauma Release Exercise) back in October. And for the second time since then I took “Le grand dictionnaire des malaises et maladies” by Jacques Martel out and checked for what my body is trying to tell me.
Hips represent your ability or desire to move forward. Painful hips occur when you start questioning the why and how of things. You wonder if you have the right to live for yourself or if you have to continue living for everybody like you’ve always been. There is a link between this pain in moving forward and the sense of autonomy, independence. My body is trying to tell me that I have a certain stiffness, resistance and rigidity toward a situation or person, because I felt betrayed or abandoned.
I just couldn’t grasp it the first time I read it. I was in disbelief that I, Chantal, would be having an issue with moving forward in my preferred future. After all, that’s what I help people do, for a living. Since then, life has been showing me a few things that bring evidence to what I cited above. I have finally decided to get information on what is PTSD and its impact on me, my kids, my relationship because I had enough of living for my family, putting their needs up front all the time, and many times putting my dreams on the back burner. A little bit frustrating for someone like me. I like to pursue new ventures and feel free. But now I feel like I have to tiptoe my way to it. I feel abandoned because this relationship use to be about team work and spirit, and it’s nothing like that anymore. This weekend I became aware that independance to me is being in a “do-it yourself” mode because when you’re independent you can’t rely on anyone. Is this really true? No. You can be independent and co-operate with others to bring forth your dreams.
Is my body talking to me louder than I would like? Well… I know it could be worse, I could have a broken hip instead of a painful one. So, now what… what can I do about this? I started seeing a physiotherapist; have taken a different approach with my personal life coach; have seek advice from my fitness coach on what muscles I can work to get better; have been doing Tong Ren for it, have been in contact with someone that offers support to spouses of military or ex-military that are living in a relationship affected by PTSD; I’m reading more on PTSD and its effects and this new understanding is allowing me to be gentle with me, the kids and my spouse.
I think I’m on the right track… and I’m positive that the future will confirm it.