I’ve been asked for my opinion about something a friend of mine is going through and I know enough now to not go into this. So I gently answered that my opinion didn’t really matter because I was an observer of her game and not a player involved.
Just like when you’re watching a hockey game and you’re yelling at the players because they are not doing what you think would be a better play. Really, your opinion doesn’t matter because you’re not involved. You’re not even on the ice! What can you do about it? You could be speculating forever and seeing the better options, and it still wouldn’t change a thing because you’re an outsider and you are not in the action.
There are always a minimum of 2 options for any given situation and more often then not, millions of possibilities. How you think, feel, act or react can change the outcome in so many variations… Just like any game. So really, what would my opinion change? Nothing. I wasn’t a player and I wasn’t even present at the game! What can I do to support the person now is a better question to ask.
I’ve adopted that line of thought for a few years now that life is a game and that I can decide to play it whatever way I choose, knowing that I have to be ready to assume the repercussions of my decisions. And I like it. I like to play and have fun so this philosophy fits me. For now at least.