When my partner, a friend, a colleague, my father can’t accept even a simple compliment I give him, as a simple sign of appreciation, I feel like my appreciation is not valued or appreciated.
If my partner can’t receive the attention I give her by doing things for her, making time to spend with him, compliments I give him, it means:
He can’t receive what I have to offer
She can’t receive who I am
I can’t feel unconditionally loved
I can’t open up
I can’t trust that I will be supported
I feel rejected for who I am – I’m like the little kid with slumped shoulders, head down, wondering what could be good enough to be loved for who he is. Simply loved.
I feel alone
I feel I have to do everything by myself – I can never rely on anyone, since no one really cares and loves me for who I am.
Separation – not receiving perpetuates the paradigm that we are all separate, that we require competing against one another, which creates aloneness.
What would it take to be able to receive and in turn create a nurturing, caring, creative, collaborative environment where I am free to be me and to be loved for who I am?
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